rating: 3 of 5 stars
The best thing about this book was that when men saw me reading it, they would get ALL KINDS of bent outta shape. Seriously. I mean, they took it personally. That only made me want to get through it faster to see what the hell Steve was telling because men were nervous.
The first part of this book reads like a relationship manual from 1950. I understand where he’s coming from, but I couldn’t relate. My mind doesn’t work that way. A friend of mine agreed that it did sound a little bit dateed, but she also said “it gets better.”
It did. I love the part encouraging women to “get some standards.” It’s sad that people need to be told that but, obviously, they do. I’m glad to hear a man say it. But, it is also kind of sad that Harvey sets up men as these brainless little creatures who will only act right if you make them. I just can’t believe that is true. Sure, there are people who will try to get away with whatever you’re willing to let them get away with. I get that. But surely, SURELY, there are some men out there who don’t need to be put in check from the starting line. Surely there are some men out there who have standards of their own and don’t need you to dictate yours in order to act accordingly.
All of that said, it was an entertaining book and a quick read. I would recommend it to people who are interested, but take it, like any other “self help” book, with a salt shaker.